IT IS NOT EASY.
Others don't even want to get into it. But if you think you can handle the situation, or at least you’re trying to survive it, then at least arm yourself with knowledge. Knowing what to expect, what not to expect, and which mistakes to avoid will help you get through the bad and worse parts of being a long distance lover.
Here are the most common mistakes to avoid when you are in a long distance relationship:
Being clingy. In a normal relationship, this is bad. In long distance relationships, it is a double edged dagger that brings not an ounce of goodness to your relationship. Yes, mister, I feel you. I feel and understand the need to know her whereabouts at all times, to smother her with attention to make up for the distance and the physically impossible, but to demand of her to give you all of her time is wrong. Trust her just as much as she trusts you. Trust the love that you have for each other and relax. The last thing you want is to wake up one day and discover that she’s burnt out and choked from your clinginess.
Being too “distant”. You’re already distant physically. At least make up for it by involving her in your daily life, telling her about your everyday life away from her and telling her about your plans. She won’t likely appreciate finding out on Facebook that you went on a trip to the Niagara Falls with your friends. Don’t make the distance any worse by being spiritually distant from her. Make her feel as if you guys are just together even when you are apart. Modern technology has gifted you with so many ways to keep the communication alive. USE IT!
Not making time. It’s difficult. It’s expensive. It’s almost impossible. Almost. If you really are serious about being together, at least make her feel like you are and act as if you truly are! Even if it takes you years to save up for ticket money, or you would have to work twice or thrice as hard, what matters is that you’re working your way towards being with her. In long distance relationships, quality time matters more than ever over quantity time.
Being impatient. Trust, patience, understanding – these are the three core values that make a long distance relationship work. If you cannot have a combination of these, then you are likely to suffer from the relationship. Build up trust, extend your patience, and understand that the circumstances are never always in your hands. If you have these three, your love will be able to endure anything.
It takes guts and a lot of love to stand being a long distant lover. But if you found a girl worth waiting for – no matter how long it takes, stand firm and avoid these fatal mistakes. If you really wants to be connected to her you should now how to text her if you like her make her special!